We all hate to be wrong, but in reality we are wrong often. We just don’t want to admit it to ourselves or others. That holds us back from successful dating. When we can admit we were wrong, we can learn from our experiences.
School taught us wrongly
In school getting a wrong answer generally meant you were either not very smart or you didn’t work hard enough. Either way, you were not enough, inadequate, and that’s a feeling we try to avoid. We tend to carry this way of thinking into all matters of our lives, and that may be our biggest mistake. We should be able to be wrong without shame.
Heat seeking missile
The simple but effective intelligence of heat seeking missiles comes from the ability to know when it is wrong. It changes course regularly to find its moving target. When its heat sensor says that any move has resulted in less heat, the missile knows it’s wrong and its guidance system moves away from the cool and back toward the heat. Simple but effective.
Be a match seeking missile
Missiles learn a simple lesson from being wrong, how to correct themselves. If you are going off course and not finding a match, correct that. It’s simple. (not really)
Missiles feel no shame from being wrong. Don’t get hung up on your so-called “failures.” You can call them your “direction corrections” instead. Expect that direction corrections will be an important part of your dating process. Recognized mistakes are not just excusable, they are desirable!
Missiles make many corrections before finding their target. Your chances of finding the right person increase dramatically if you are willing to cull through a wide group of wrong people. If your match-seeking sensor is on, you’ll learn something with each wrong move.
“Your best teacher is your last mistake” Ralph Nader
So, get out there, make some mistakes, learn some things, and find your target!