You would think that the number one “Deal Breaker” for dating would be something that we can’t easily control, but that is not the case. You might think it is something people commonly lie about in their online profiles, but that is not the case.
Messy Sloppy Dirty Disheveled Grubby Grimy Unclean Soiled Stained Smelly Unsightly Bedraggled
Bad personal appearance, messy car, and cluttered home are cited as the number one dating turnoffs. Both men and women do it, and both men and women are turned off by it.
Why so messy?
Everyone knows being sloppy will hurt their chances, but people do it anyway. Dates show up unbathed (and smelly). Dates wear obviously dirty clothes. Cars have piles of trash from years of accumulation. If you want to lose at the dating game, being a slob is a fine game plan. It’s proven to turn off dates.
Do the work – Get the rewards
Anyone can be clean. It just takes a little effort. Forget the excuses. Everyone knows that being messy just means you aren’t willing to make the effort, and that unwillingness is a strong statement of disrespect for your date. We are sensual creatures. We are attracted or repelled by what our senses encounter. Make your sights, sounds, and smells attractive on your dates. (You may then be able to offer touch and taste later)
“He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.” Benjamin Franklin
People clean up well
It’s amazing how much better people can look when they try! Nice clean clothes, a haircut and a reasonable amount of grooming go a looooooong way. Ever had an old car detailed? It will amaze you how nice an old car can look. Good posture? Why not.
“Accept me the way I am” is nonsense
We’ve heard people say they don’t think they should appear different on a date than they normally appear. That logic is flawed. There are only two conclusions to be had from that approach: 1) the date is not a significant event that requires special effort or 2) this is the absolute best the person can do. People usually shave, bathe, and put on nice clothes for a wedding or job interview. Why not for a date? Telling your dates that they are unimportant won’t help you.
One of the reasons Apple is the most valuable company in the world is their great packaging. Their gear looks cool. Other companies have learned that too. Appearances matter. Ever noticed how much effort goes into a perfume bottle? Champagne labels?
Number Two Deal Breaker?
Laziness! Are you seeing a pattern?
Hi, I’m a lazy slob. What about a second date?