On paper with a postage stamp? Sure. It’s a bold statement in this digital world that will hopefully be read and re-read for a lifetime. There are also modern ways of delivering your well composed love words that we encourage. Not by text messages please. You want permanence and an appropriate level of dignity. Email works acceptably. It’s supposed to be a big deal. Make it so.
Expressing Your Love
The essential, and preferably only, topic of a love letter is informing your love interest about the qualities of your love for him or her. It’s surely not about asking to be loved. Don’t water it down with relatively trivial topics that are off subject. Don’t, for heaven’s sake, go on for pages and pages. Get to the point, stay on point, and don’t dull the point.
A love letter is intensely personal. Make it about the uniqueness of your love. A letter that says only “I Love You!” is way better than nothing, but you can do so much better. Think about your letter being re-read ten years hence. Will it evoke deep emotions, maybe a tear or two?
This is the time to use lots of pronouns like “I” and “me” and “my” in your expression. You know, the old “I feel xyz whenever I think of you.” Does your heart skip a beat when …. ? Say so. Remember, it’s about you and your love that you want the other to know about and, with great expectations, cherish.
It’s not easy to go out on a limb and express something as important as your love. You are vulnerable when you send a love letter. True. Yet, the wonderful advantage of a love letter is the separation between you and your love interest. When you are face to face you don’t get to re-write what you just said, and an immediate response always happens (even if it is silence……………………). It’s easier to get a love letter right (if you take the time). A letter also allows the receiver time to absorb the powerful content and respond appropriately.
Timing is important. It’s hard to imagine circumstances when a love letter would be appropriate after only a first date – no matter how smitten you are. A love letter expresses true love, and true love doesn’t actually happen at first sight (or sometimes even first site).
Receptivity is important. Don’t throw your fastball when the catcher is not ready. Be observant. Is your love interest giving you the signals that call for your pitch?
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Typos and bad grammar detract so much that your love letter’s powerful impact may turn out to be negative. Everyone goofs up, but a love letter is something really important to you. So, take the time to get it right. Also, pick your words carefully, be as elegant as fits your character, but always use your words that come from your heart. Read what you have written as if you were in the shoes of the recipient. Will the sentiment be taken in the way you meant it? In other words, are you communicating well?
An example; I (Rich) once responded to a suggestion from Rose by writing “Yeah Yeah Yeah.” I was trying to communicate that I had great enthusiasm, but what Rose received was “whatever.” “Yes! Yes! Yes!” would have worked so much better.
If it takes emoticons to convey your feelings, you need to work on your words. OMG, does it have to be said that you must use whole words, not decontented texting acronyms?
Don’t rush to send it. Sleep on it. Do a rewrite when you are in a different mood. Make it a sparkling gem, simple yet dazzling. Enjoy the process. It’s wonderful to feel love. Revel in it. Then share it!
“Love can be expressed in a myriad of different methods, but the most timeless and most treasured will always remain the classic love letter.” Auliq Ice
Check out the Modern Guide to Love Letters on our resources page.