Pay attention to your sources of advice!
“No enemy is worse than bad advice.” Sophocles
Many web sites make their money through the advertising on the site. Every time someone clicks onto their site they make a little money from their advertisers. If a site claims something like “The TOP 5 SECRETS to finding EVERLASTING LOVE” and their web pages are plastered with ads, can you guess what they are up to? Do they care about you or your click? If the claim is too good to be true, well….
Granted, people generally write books to make money. They also spend a lot of time writing, and, if the book comes from a big publisher, there has likely been some intelligent editing. We’ve read quite a few books on dating. Some are relatively worthless. Some offer real help. Some we disagree with entirely. The good thing about buying from bookstores is that you can thumb through the book to see if you like what is being said. Amazon has reviews that may be helpful, but we’ve purchased some well-reviewed books that were ludicrously bad. Hey, at least we got a laugh.
There are some excellent dating websites out there. We are really glad we were able to attract each other through match.com. While we see no reason to believe the dating websites don’t want to help make matches, they make more money the longer you pay to have their service. Hmmm, there seems to be a conflict.
We believe there are many good people in this world who care about the well-being of others. Keep your eyes open wide (and your hand on your wallet) and look for the caring people who want to help you.
Find your Own Way using Directions
Recognize that you can figure out this dating challenge. Also, recognize that it’s smart to find help. You can drive from NYC to LA without a map, but it’s not such a bad idea to use one. On the other hand, a map won’t get you there, you still must get behind the wheel (and pay for the gas).