Don’t you want somebody to love
Don’t you need somebody to love
Wouldn’t you love somebody to love
You better find somebody to love Jefferson Airplane
Oddly, we don’t generally recognize a similarly strong desire to participate in the active side of loving, the powerful need to love.
The Joy of Loving
Take a minute and think about the most loving people who you know personally. I bet they are not unhappy people. I think of my Aunt Joan. The church at her funeral was overflowing with appreciative recipients of her love, and I can only remember her with a smile on her face. Giving love creates joy in both the giver and receiver.
Mutual Love Giving
Now imagine your relationship with the person with whom you share the desire to give your love more and more every day. Your joy in the relationship comes from the other’s joy, and your loved one feels the same way about you! It’s like a snowball rolling downhill and gathering mass. You love more, so they love more, so you love more, so they love …. It happens. And it can happen to you.
How old were you when you noticed that receiving Christmas presents wasn’t as much fun as giving them? Kids are all gimme gimme. Nothing pleases a parent more than seeing their kid light up with happiness when opening the well-chosen present. It’s the same with love when we learned that the giving is the best part. ( We all need to be good receivers too. When the other gives love, take it in with gratitude)
And in the end, the love you take
Is equal to the love you make The Beatles