All I really know about dating, I learned from the poker table?
Look at your cards
That seems obvious. You don’t want the disadvantage of not knowing how good or bad your hand is. The same holds true for what you bring to the dating table. Have you taken a clear look at your strengths and weaknesses? Sometimes we think we are just like most everyone else, but that is not true. Some people downplay their strengths and over-emphasize their weaknesses. Others do just the opposite. Finding reality is what you want. Your cards are no better or worse than the reality of them.
Play your hand well
Use your strengths to your advantage and don’t let your weaknesses hold you back. In the hand above the 2 of hearts is insignificant. How to play the three 5s is what this hand is all about. Say you are a great cook, but you aren’t interested in sports. Look for someone who loves your cooking and could not care less about your detachment from sports.
If you know your hand, you are half way there. After that you need to get an idea of what cards are across the table. It’s not easy to know the other person’s hand, but it’s impossible if you are not paying attention. You know all too well that well-practiced bluffs can fool you. On the other hand, amateur players may not even know how good or bad their hand is. The longer you play with someone, the better idea you will have of how that player plays.
Calling your bluff
You can pretend to have assets that you don’t actually have. In poker you may win when your competitor believes your bluff and folds never knowing for sure whether you were bluffing or not. That is not the way dating works (hopefully!). In dating your bluff will always be revealed if you stay in the game long enough. If it a big bluff, you are likely to lose.
Know when to fold ’em
If the chances of this hand (date) being a winner has really bad odds, it’s time to back out and wait for the next hand. There will always be another hand to play. If you are willing to take the risk of playing against long odds, you are going to have to get used to losing a lot. Play hands that you have a good chance of winning.
You too can be the King or Queen of Hearts!